My guy.
It is funny in a way. I started this blog to journal my adventures in dating.A few very strange people contacted me, and then Jake wrote me.We chatted on line for a while then on the phone. Which led to the eventually first meeting.
I arrived first. He was a little late. I waited in my car thinking about being possibly stood up. Then he drove in and parked right beside me. He was wearing a huge grin. I didn’t know if that was a good sign or a bad one.
I thought perhaps that I was not what he expected at all and that he was grinning at the humour of it. He apologized for being late. He didn’t know the area well and had managed to get himself turned around.
We got out and walked together to the restaurant.
I said something like “so now you get to see me in the flesh?”
He chuckled a little. Confusing me further.
We were given a table right away, and made small talk.
He said my picture was lovely, but that I was way prettier in person than my picture online.
I was shocked and taken aback.
He asked if he was what I expected.
I said he looked nothing like his picture.
His face dropped and he whispered a dreaded “oh oh”
I smiled and said….”No, that is not a bad thing, The picture is nice but your hair is different.”
I smiled and touched his arm too reassure him.
He was so relieved.
We have been seeing each other since.
Neither of us are perfect by far but we seem to understand each other and really enjoy each other.
I think this is going some where. Sometimes it seems to be going so very fast.
I have asked my girlfriends if they want to post about their own experiences with the dating adventure.
So far 2 are considering it. I am hoping they log on and run with it.
Trying to catch you up ….
I admit that living a life of confidence and happiness has been easy for me at times. I have found a balance of career and relaxation time that worked very well for me. Then introduce a new person into a possible position of relationship importance and ZAP, suddenly I become a nervous individual with all these strange insecure thoughts, and random anxieties. It is disconcerting and new.
Yesterday was that kind of day. I was feeling chubby and not attractive. There was no real cause for this. No valid reasons to push that.
Jake mentioned the night before how he was looking forward to meeting me but was also very nervous. I told him I wasn’t. That I was focusing on it as meeting a friend. He thought that was a great way to look at it. Then the very next day I get hit with these strange nerves. He called me as promised last night I told him about this. For whatever reason it made him less nervous and me more nervous.Okay, we met and spent the day together. We had an amazing time. Which freaks me out..He calls me everyday, and we talk so comfortably together. This should be fun. On a side noteTIP: Guys, if you are going to post a picture of yourself. Put on a shirt, and tidy up the room behind you. Naked chests are not a huge turn on to most strangers. I have asked my friends and they all agree. Most of us have
enough restraint that your hair chest is not going to have us stumbling to reply. Unless of course you have young Brad Pitt abs, then we would just use you.
Whirlwind!
5 days of whirlwind it has been fun and a touch scary.
Worst contact of the week
vidshooter: in what? You don’t even know me!
vidshooter: huh? How utterly stupid ignorant obtuse and inane are you? you know absolutely NOTHING about me…and you say that shit? grow up asshole!
*** vidshooter’s IC window is closed
This is then end of a message exchangeThat consisted of 10 lines previousWhere he informed me of among other things his bisexuallity, and width of his privates.
This hostile message I received after poliety saying no thank you 3 times to this fellow.
I wish I had saved the earlier part of the instant message to share with you.
Notice his id name
And the fact that he introduced himself as big black and BI
Followed by all the sleazy lines and sexual aggressive plot lines that could fill a crummy porno
He contacted me and launched rigfht into the porn talk.
Rob has been polite and friendly and backed away from the length of my legs and all the talk of what a great kisser he is. (The Hungarian)has been polite and friendly and backed away from the length of my legs and all the talk of what a great kisser he is. (The Hungarian)So he is not out of it yet. (He is way too handsome)has been polite and friendly and backed away from the length of my legs and all the talk of what a great kisser he is. (The Hungarian)So he is not out of it yet. (He is way too handsome)
Ian Well Ian sounds fabulous and writes deeply, and is friendly and not overly aggressive… but he
Well Ian looks so much like my ex husband that I sat blinking at the monitor then burst out laughing. If anyone who knew me when married ever saw him they would pack me off to the therapist.
Poor man.
I don’t know if I can get past that one. (Sigh) -We will see.
Len is shy, different looking. Very tall which is a definitely plus to me.is shy, different looking. Very tall which is a definitely plus to me.
- My response: Thanks for responding to my profile. I just looked at yours.
I read that you enjoy camping and fishing, old cars.
I am a pretty normal and honest person.
I like summer outdoor activities; I haven’t fished in many years. I did buy a couple rods and reels last summer but never put them to use. 
As for camping, well I am a cottage gal over a tent.
Old cars - I know nothing about beyond they is powerful and nice to look at.
I do have a distant memory of really wanting a 65 Stingray at one time or a Shelby.
If my lack of outdoor experience, and basic car knowledge were not a complete NO to you I wouldn’t mind chatting with you some time.
Take care,
His emailed me back that he is a very interested in chatting and getting to know me.
We will see.
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- A couple more lude responses here and there.
- The radio DJ –with really bad fake hair,
- A little fellow who is 5 foot 3 inches tall. A very nice person I am sure but I am 5 foot 10 inches in my bare feet. - The stock car racecar driver this one is fun to read JI love a women in a ball cap.And by the way i am a SMOKER..Relationships can start with a hug and a kiss.???? Also i spent most of my friday nights at ******** Speedway.Crew cheif Truck.I - that’s enough I think
- Now why would he contact me?There is nothing about me that scream PIT CREW.
Well that brings us to Jake
Well that brings us toI like Jake.
He really likes me and can’t figure out why I am talking with him. He flatters me and is sweet and a bit shy, but there is a sharp wit and sense of humor to him. He ask’s if he can call me and always does when he said he would (smile) which is every day. He didn’t ask me out, he asked if I would be interested in meeting in person, and then asked me when I wanted to. He let me set the boundaries. How cool is that????
He said he adores my giggle, that he thinks about it at points in the day and it makes him smile.
Last night he said something that struck me funny and I started laughing, he was so thrilled at making me laugh like that.
When I wasn’t home Saturday afternoon for a phone call when I said I would be he left a message that was a bit sad.
And then he thought about it and told me why and was very sincere and smart.
I caught myself thinking about him during the day today at the office.
We are going to meet this weekend. I have held off meeting him until then. (did I say I like him?)
He is very cute and has one cheezie looking picture posted. I haven’t mentioned it yet but it makes me laugh. It a GQ kind of shot meant to look natural, but it doesn’t. LOL I think it is so funny. Did I mention he is super cute. I have never been attracted to a super hotty before.
I have three general rules about men.
They can’t be able to wear my jeans.
They can’t have better hair than me.
And no super handsome men.
He better not be able to fit in my jeans… A gal has to stick to some rules.
That’s it for now. I am expecting a call shortly. I will keep you posted.
I love a women in a ball cap.And by the way i am a SMOKER..Relationships can start with a hug and a kiss.???? Also i spent most of my friday nights at ******** Speedway.Crew cheif Truck.I - Now why would he contact me?There is nothing about me that scream PIT CREW.I love a women in a ball cap.And by the way i am a SMOKER..Relationships can start with a hug and a kiss.???? Also i spent most of my friday nights at ******** Speedway.Crew cheif Truck.I - Now why would he contact me?
I love a women in a ball cap.And by the way i am a SMOKER..Relationships can start with a hug and a kiss.???? Also i spent most of my friday nights at ******** Speedway.Crew cheif Truck.I - Now why would he contact me?There is nothing about me that scream PIT CREW.I love a women in a ball cap.And by the way i am a SMOKER..Relationships can start with a hug and a kiss.???? Also i spent most of my friday nights at ******** Speedway.Crew cheif Truck.I - Now why would he contact me?
Starting out online
I signed up with an online dating site.This was an education in itself.
It was a 2-page process
- Do you want children?
- You are a (male/female) seeking a (male/female)
- Do you have children?
- Height
- Body type
- Do you smoke?
- Do you drink?
- Do you use drugs?
- Hair color
- Interests
- Religion
- I am looking for _____________________
This one was interesting you could chose from…
- Friends
- Online friends
- Dating
- Hang out
- Intimate encounters
- Short term
- Long term
- Other….
Then I had to come up with a headline and then a description
As well as a first date scenario
Upload a photo
And I was good to go.
It did not take long for the responses to start.
My first contact was from a nice man a town away.
This service offers an instant messaging feature. Which this fellow used to contact me.
Well he was very pleasant to chat too and seems nice, but his has CP and is disabled and very large, and wears a heavy beard.
There was very little we had in common really.
The next was a man close to my age. That lives about an hour away from me.
He also sent me an instant message and we exchanger messenger information and chatted on there.
He is a programmer from Europe. His English is not fabulous, and I thought his short answers and rare questions were due to that, but know I don’t think so. I think perhaps there is something wrong with him. He sent me a picture. It is at a distance and you can’t see his face well in it.
Our communication was fairly basic.
He has contacted me a few times since and I have been somewhat put off by him.
He seems to have an attachment to me already that goes beyond our casual connection.
He talked of kissing.
He also when contacting me wants to meet me then and there.
Ummm… no.
He is a stranger and I am not going to drop my life in a second to run out and meet a stranger.
Here is a tidbit of last night
rob- Any plan tonight me- Not too much, just catching up on things
rob- I think to go gym now for one hour or would you like meet?
me- Tell me Rob - what do you see happening when we meet?
Rob- Takin wine, maybe kisses
Me- Oh I see
Me- You seem to imply a very sexual relationship
Me- And frankly you are still very much a stranger to me.
Rob- Im nice guy who love cuddle
Me- Okay
Me- I like cuddling and kissing and the works but I don’t hook up with a stranger
Me- That is not me at all
Rob- Me too
Rob- It’s all up too you if u trust me we could meet if not it’s ok
Oh then there was this message : ever do it on a office desk?
I was just going to ignore that completely but could not resist a short reply : That was a strange first contact to send.
Which he replied : ya…I guess I should work on it… how about the hood of a car!?
Ready - Set - Date
Hello out there. Recently I decided to begin a new adventure.
My Goal
I want the WOW guy who feels I am his WOW gal.
‘Wow, I am so lucky to have this person in my life.’
I have a good life, but I don’t want to be alone anymore.
Of course I think I am unique. It is not an ego thing; I am just me and know what I want.
I have decided I am going to date and see if I can find him, or if he finds me. A friend of mine suggested I write about the experience.
I thought why not? I enjoy writing, and this might make for an entertaining read.
I suppose an introduction is in order.
- I am Harmony
- I am tall,
- Blonde,
- Pretty fit but not a workout junkie,
- I am into healthy living but not obsessed by it.
- Once married and divorced for several years now.
- I have one great child,
- A dog,
- A house in a good neighborhood in a nice city.
- I earn a decent living
I invite you along to follow what I find and what happens.
I will be posting about the men I meet and how it goes.
I signed up to an online dating site one week ago and much has happened in that first week.
I will have to play catch up over the next little while to fill you in on what has already gone on.
That’s it for tonight… I have a date.